By Veronica Kallos-Lilly and Richard Harrison.
The psychotherapy field has a long tradition of promoting therapist neutrality and ignoring the person-of-the-therapist. In fact, in some approaches, therapists are actively encouraged to check their “self” at the door. The reality is we bring ourselves into our sessions whether we intend to or not. When we do so out of awareness, we risk getting in the way of the therapy.
For instance, many of us will be able to relate to this scenario: Imagine one of your clients, Mark, coming in for his 5th session complaining and expressing discouragement.