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Not Enough

By Jude Bijou, who will be presenting Attitude Reconstruction: Build Joy, Love, and Peace in Vancouver on Oct 22-23, 2016.

Do you feel like you’re never enough? That there’s never enough time? Money? Friends? Great opportunities? Recognition? Do you believe if you had or did something else — got married, earned more, looked more beautiful, danced better, or had more time — you’d finally relax and feel okay? Do you believe more is better? Are you rarely satisfied? Do you feel deprived, unworthy, or anxious no matter how hard you try or what you do? Do you secretly measure everything against an invisible standard and come up lacking?

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Giving Up All Hope

By Jude Bijou, who will be presenting Attitude Reconstruction: Build Joy, Love, and Peace in Vancouver on Oct 22-23, 2016.
Feature Photo Credit: Circle of Docs

If you’re waiting for a change and frustrated it’s not happening, maybe it would be beneficial to give up all hope! Sounds strange?

“Hope” is a double-edged word. Hope in its best sense is something that keeps you going in difficult times. It can keep you heading to your heartfelt goals and dreams. Hope can keep you from feeling despair. Positive hope focuses on the good, sending good wishes and positive energy on to others, such as, “I hope for world peace.” Or “I hope you have a good trip.”

But “hope” can also be something that keeps you stuck in a no-win, less than satisfying situation or relationship. You remain attached to the potential instead of accepting that it is unlikely to change. In a negative sense, it keeps you from gaining clarity and moving forward in your life. Hope can also keep you in agony, feeling discouraged, hopeless, and angry. You are not accepting the reality that no matter how much you want something to be different, it isn’t. It’s out of your control.

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